This morning I couldn’t sleep. I woke up at 2 am and have laid there for almost two hours. I got up, took some medication for a headache and now here I am, sitting at my desk, reading blogs and enjoying the creativity and perspectives of other people. It has been a while since I’ve written. Between the things that must be done and the headaches I’ve been experiencing, I haven’t had much time or motivation to spend at the computer writing. But, I miss it.
Taken for Granted….?
One of the comments I read this morning was, “I gave up the corporate ladder for diapers, and yes, I gave up the prestige of position as defined by our culture to one defined by my God.” This insightful comment came from The Respect Dare, written by Nina Roesner. Another comment in this blog entry (Taken For Granted….?) states, “You can have a beautiful marriage, too. But it won’t happen if you allow yourself to model what you see on secular culture’s tv or in the magazine stand at grocery checkout. Those are lies. We’re also buying Christian-culture lies if we subscribe to the notion that women are to be doormats and second-class citizens in a marriage.”
This life we Christians have available to us as we grow in Christ is a life of fulfillment, partnership with our spouses, joy, peace, relationship and so much more. God wants us to live a vibrant life filled with purpose. He wants us to grow and develop and be all that He created us to be. If we’re not living this kind of fulfilling life, then we’re falling short of the potential God created in us.
So, how do we reach this potential? Well, first and foremost, God created in each and every one of us a need for Him. As vast as His creation truly is (and we’re still learning new things about our cosmos from the most incredible discoveries in outer space to the tiniest subparticles here on earth), He created, loves, and knows each and every one of us. He even knows how many hairs are on our heads. And He wants us to know Him. He gave us revelation about Himself through nature and through His Word.
Matthew 10:30 “But the very hairs on your head are all numbered.” (NASB)
In order to maintain friendships we need to spend time with our friends and get to know them. Correct? How can we have valuable relationships with people if we don’t spend time getting to know them? The same goes for our relationship with God. We need to spend time daily in His Word. The more effort and time we spend getting to know God through His Word and praying, the more we learn about ourselves and our purpose. So, do you spend some time getting to know Him daily? The Bible isn’t a book that is a drudgery to read. It is a book in which God reveals Himself and His plan and purpose for us.
Jeremiah 29:11 “‘For I know the plans that I have for you’, declares the Lord, ‘plans for welfare and not calamity, to give you a future and a hope.'”
Relationships always impact each other in one way or another. Getting to know God inevitably means that we will change. The more we get to know Him, the more we’ll change. And, personally, I do want to continue to grow and change and develop. I want God to use me to have an impact on this world. And “this world” in each and every one of our lives starts at home.
As a parent what kind of impact are you having on your children? What kind of impact do you have on your spouse? Please… be sure that you do not ever underestimate how you affect your family whether negative or positive. (There is no such things as a “neutral impact”.)
Psalm 127:3(a) “Behold, children are a gift from the Lord.”
So, as a mother, I want to speak to mothers for a moment. God has defined your role to be one of incredible value. You and your husband are rearing children who will have an impact on this world and on those around them. The time you spend praying for your children, teaching them to know and love God, and raising them to have a positive impact on their world is far more important than any position in the corporate world. Regardless of whether you work full-time, part-time or whether are an at-home-Mom, your family should always be the first priority that you have. The way you raise your children will have an impact on their lives and the future.
Proverbs 31:10-12 “An excellent wife who can find, for her worth is far above jewels. The heart of her husband trusts in her and he will have no lack of gain. She does him good and not evil all the days of her life.”
As a wife, I want to encourage wives. The roll you have and the impact you can have on the life of your husband is immense. Don’t take it lightly. With a word, you can tear him down or build him up. You can encourage or discourage him. There is so much to write about this and I will do so in another blog. But, I encourage you to work to be the kind of wife that adds to your marriage regardless of whether you think your husband is doing the same or not. As a Christian, part of that “adding to the marriage” is relying on God to change you over time, spending time with Him so that you are refreshed and able to give to your marriage selflessly, and then working on being the best wife that you can possibly be to your husband.
In her blog entry, Nina Roesner so eloquently stated that we cannot emulate what we see on TV or follow the advice about marriage that we may read in magazines. She’s right. Our culture has lowered the standard tremendously and the divorce statistics indicate that the lower standard just isn’t working. God’s Word and His Holy Spirit show us what we need to know in order to have a really vibrant, loving marriage.
Let’s pray for our marriages and our husbands. Let’s work on becoming the wives that seek to live by God’s standard and leave it up to God to work in our husband’s lives so that we can have an amazing, loving, wonderful marriage.
Have a blessed day.